We all make mistakes in a relationship, but there are some things that guys do that should never be forgiven. By letting him get away with things that are disrespectful to you and your relationship, you’ll only be headed toward a lifetime of betrayal, disrespect, and sadness. Here’s a list of some of the most awful things your man can do to damage your relationship, and the reasons why you should NEVER forgive him.
1. He Lies to You
If you’ve noticed your man keeps lying to you about the smallest of things, even things that don’t really matter, then you might be in a relationship with a pathological liar. If he can’t speak the truth about little things, how will you ever trust him with things that actually matter? There might even come a time when you’re unable to distinguish his lies from the actual truth. My advice? Leave before it gets to that point.
2. He Keeps Invading Your Privacy
Have you ever caught him going through your phone the minute you leave for the bathroom? Did he check your entire Facebook inbox the day you accidentally left your account open on his laptop? Is he always convincing you to give him all your passwords? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then it’s clear that your partner will not leave any chance to snoop around and invade your privacy. Even when you don’t have anything to hide, such behavior is just plain annoying and reflects serious trust issues. A relationship is bound to end if it isn’t based on the foundation of trust.
3. He Keeps Texting His Ex
If he’s strictly platonic with past lovers, there’s nothing to worry about. But if you discover he’s sending flirty messages to his ex-girlfriend, then, honey, don’t forgive him. It’s time for you to find a new boyfriend.
4. He Cheats on You
For me, the ultimate betrayal in a relationship is when your partner has the audacity to cheat on you. I can forgive a person if they fall out of love with me and decide to break up. But I can never forgive them if they make the conscious choice to go behind my back, hook up with someone else, and hurt me in such a deep way. Cheating isn’t just about love; it reflects the amount of respect you have for your partner. Forgiving a guy who cheats on you just means you’re agreeing to be disrespected.
5. He Disrespects You
Whether it’s by cursing you, trivializing your problems in life, belittling the efforts you make, or just with his general attitude towards you, you don’t have time to put up with a person like that. Nobody in this world has the right to disrespect you in any way. While this might seem like a small issue compared to the huge problems couples face, it can actually become the root cause of deeper issues ahead. Stop waiting for this attitude to turn into a bigger problem and leave him while you still can.
6. He Disrespects Your Family and Friends
A guy who truly loves you will be more than eager to know the people in your life better. He will look for ways to connect with the people who are important in your life just so he can feel even closer to you. It doesn’t matter how annoying your family might be or how different he is from your friends. If your guy isn’t even making an effort to know them better and doesn’t miss a chance to make a joke about them, then it’s clear he doesn’t really care enough about the relationship.
7. He Keeps Bringing Up the Past
Every couple has fights, goes through rough times, and says horrible things to each other that they regret instantly. To move forward in a healthy and happy way, it’s important to leave the past behind. Old arguments and problems should be completely erased from your mind once you decide to kiss and make up. But if you’ve noticed your boyfriend has made a mental list of every bad thing that has ever happened and keeps bringing up past incidents in every fight, it’s possible your relationship will always stay stuck in that bad phase.
