Navigating the complexities of dating can be like threading a needle in a dark room. Each decision is important, and it can be tough to determine the best course of action. In today’s story, being late was the final straw on a first date.

He shared his story.

I had a first date planned with a woman I met through a dating website. We decided to meet for coffee at 2 p.m. I arrived on time. At 2:10 p.m., she texted me to see whether I was at the cafe. I answered yes, and she said she was at home but would leave shortly and be there in 20 minutes.

Basically, her text meant that she was waiting to make sure I was present before leaving the house. I was put off. I took the risk that she would not show up and arrived on time. She should have too. Am I wrong?

I drank my coffee and left at 2:30. She still wasn’t there. At 2:45, I received a text from her asking where I was. I replied, “I finished my coffee and left at 2:30 when you still weren’t there as promised.”

She wrote me a series of scathing texts telling me how terrible I was and how I had done everything wrong. She said I should have texted her to tell her I was leaving, etc.

Do women really expect men to sit and wait 45 minutes for them to arrive late—when the only reason they are late is to make you wait? It sure seemed like it was a game or test. Either way, she failed my tests. I’d sure like to hear from the women on this one.