Feeling overlooked for many years by his parents, a man could no longer ignore the constant sidelining. He took to Reddit to open up about his hurtful situation. Birthdays, graduations, even the smallest of victories—his parents always found a way to highlight his sister instead.

This is his story

I have a sister that’s 6 years older than me. My parents for years canceled on me last minute because of my sister.

I have a basketball game. Oops, sorry, sister doesn’t feel like going out. I am graduating. Oops, sorry, sister had a bad day at work. They have missed both major and smaller events in my life because of her meltdowns.

Then, I met the love of my life. We decided to tie the knot. From the beginning, I told my parents how I was worried my sister would ruin another special moment in my life. My mom told me over and over again it would not happen.

On the day of my wedding, I received a voicemail from my mom saying they couldn’t come because my sister’s dog was sick, and she was upset. I was hurt, but my best man, being the jokester he is, took my phone and went to my fiancée to ask if he could post a video of our wedding as a gift on social media. She loved his idea.

I had no idea about it until I came home. Our honeymoon was at a lakeside cabin. No cell service.

The post caption was “My best friend. He is an amazing person, even if his parents NEVER showed up for him.” The video was still pictures of us next to her parents, me on the dance floor, cutting the cake—where you would normally see both parents in wedding pictures. The audio behind the video was my mom’s voicemail explaining how they couldn’t come because my sister’s dog was sick.

I came home a week later to hundreds of messages. Family members from both sides insisting I take it down. I was told my sister hadn’t stopped crying. My mom is refusing to leave the house.

Maybe I am the jerk here. I didn’t take it down when I got my messages. I didn’t call my family back right away. I waited until my vacation time was over and enjoyed my time with my wife in our new home before I contacted anyone.

My dad told me to take down the video. It was “just a bad night” for them. That they will make it up to me and my wife for not coming. My reply was exactly, “How do you plan to ‘make up’ my wedding? It’s a once-in-a-lifetime thing. You chose to ignore my feelings on the whole matter.”

Then he just repeated he would make it up to me. I told him I would take down the video only when he made up for missing my wedding. Flustered, we both hung up the phone before we both said things we shouldn’t have.